{"id":721,"date":"2015-10-29T16:45:48","date_gmt":"2015-10-29T15:45:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/?p=721"},"modified":"2017-02-21T21:45:42","modified_gmt":"2017-02-21T20:45:42","slug":"bas-les-masques","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/bas-les-masques\/","title":{"rendered":"D\u00e9guisement : Bas les masques !"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-722\" src=\"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/masques-300x225.jpg\" alt=\"Bas les masques !\" width=\"216\" height=\"162\" srcset=\"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/masques-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/10\/masques.jpg 640w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 216px) 100vw, 216px\" \/>\u00c0 la veille d&rsquo;Halloween, p\u00e9riode propice au d\u00e9guisement, j\u2019ai eu envie de parler de nos personnages.<\/h2>\n<p>Ceux que nous jouons, ceux que nous laissons voir de nous, ceux dont nous sommes devenus prisonniers, parfois \u00e0 notre insu.<\/p>\n<p>Il y a quelques temps, une amie, une vraie, m\u2019a fait un aveu et un cadeau. Elle m\u2019a dit ce qu\u2019elle percevait de moi du temps que nous travaillions ensemble.<\/p>\n<p>J\u2019ai \u00e9t\u00e9 touch\u00e9e, et un peu attrist\u00e9e de ce que j\u2019ai entendu.<\/p>\n<p>Car ce qu\u2019elle d\u00e9crivait de moi \u00e9tait \u00e0 la fois tellement vrai (ce que je donnais \u00e0 voir) et tellement faux (ce que je ressentais).<\/p>\n<p>Le Fran\u00e7ais a la r\u00e9putation d\u2019\u00eatre r\u00e2leur, et je dois dire que j\u2019\u00e9tais \u00e0 la hauteur de la r\u00e9putation\u00a0! Je pratiquais cette discipline avec application, la cultivais, j\u2019en jouais, je me d\u00e9passais.<\/p>\n<p>En r\u00e9alit\u00e9, c\u2019est moi qui \u00e9tais d\u00e9pass\u00e9e.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>Mon personnage avait pris le pas sur mon identit\u00e9.<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Mes r\u00e9actions \u00e9taient devenues pr\u00e9visibles, l\u00e0 o\u00f9 je croyais \u00eatre naturelle et spontan\u00e9e\u00a0!<\/p>\n<p>En clair, m\u00e9fions-nous de ce que l\u2019on donne \u00e0 voir de nous, car l\u2019Autre, celui qui nous sert de miroir est un miroir sans tain.<\/p>\n<p>Il refl\u00e8te ce qui se tient devant lui et pr\u00e9serve des regards ce qui se cache derri\u00e8re.<\/p>\n<p>Derri\u00e8re, se trouvent nos pens\u00e9es, notre moi int\u00e9rieur et profond, le sien, ses pens\u00e9es, ses \u00e9motions.<\/p>\n<p>Cela signifie que l\u2019entourage peut continuer de rire par habitude de choses qui ne l\u2019amusent plus.<\/p>\n<p>Mais, il peut \u00e9galement se taire sans cautionner pour autant ce qui vient d\u2019\u00eatre dit.<\/p>\n<p>Le dicton nous a laiss\u00e9 croire que si l\u2019autre acquiesce ou ne dit mot c\u2019est qu\u2019il consent\u00a0: grave erreur\u00a0!<\/p>\n<p>L\u2019autre peut se taire\u00a0:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>par respect,<\/li>\n<li>par lassitude,<\/li>\n<li>parce qu\u2019il n\u2019a pas l\u2019envie, le courage, l\u2019\u00e9nergie de s\u2019opposer,\u2026<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Cela ne signifie aucunement qu\u2019il approuve.<\/p>\n<p>Dans ce contexte, les relations professionnelles ou personnelles sont biais\u00e9es. Chacun joue un jeu, un jeu de dupes qui pourrait s\u2019appeler \u00ab\u00a0je ne suis pas celui ou celle que tu crois\u00a0\u00bb, ou \u00ab\u00a0je ne pense pas ce que tu crois que je pense\u00a0\u00bb.<\/p>\n<p>Difficile, vous en conviendrez, de s\u2019y retrouver dans ces conditions!<\/p>\n<p>Au d\u00e9part, il y a seulement un jeu, on fait comme les enfants\u00a0:\u00ab\u00a0viens, on joue \u00e0\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0viens on fait comme si\u2026\u00a0\u00bb.<\/p>\n<p>Et progressivement ce texte devient le n\u00f4tre. <strong>Nous devenons, qui, le r\u00e2leur, le boute en train, le cynique, le d\u00e9sabus\u00e9, l\u2019optimiste, le bon copain de service !<\/strong><\/p>\n<h4>Lorsque l\u2019on s\u2019est perdu dans le jeu, il est temps de dire pouce, de poser le d\u00e9guisement et de reprendre sa v\u00e9ritable identit\u00e9, se reconnecter \u00e0 son moi v\u00e9ritable\u2026<\/h4>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00c0 la veille d&rsquo;Halloween, p\u00e9riode propice au d\u00e9guisement, j\u2019ai eu envie de parler de nos personnages. Ceux que nous jouons, ceux que nous laissons voir de nous, ceux dont nous sommes devenus prisonniers, parfois \u00e0 notre insu. Il y a quelques temps, une amie, une vraie, m\u2019a fait un aveu et un cadeau. Elle m\u2019a [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_mi_skip_tracking":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[23,218],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v18.1 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Apprenons \u00e0 quitter notre personnage pour recouvrer notre identit\u00e9 !\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/bas-les-masques\/\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:title\" content=\"Bas les masques\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:description\" content=\"Apprenons \u00e0 quitter notre personnage pour recouvrer notre identit\u00e9 !\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:image\" 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