{"id":1381,"date":"2017-07-07T16:07:32","date_gmt":"2017-07-07T14:07:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/?p=1381"},"modified":"2018-09-03T15:09:23","modified_gmt":"2018-09-03T13:09:23","slug":"les-conseils-inutiles","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/les-conseils-inutiles\/","title":{"rendered":"Les conseils inutiles"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2><a href=\"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/oreilles-bouch\u00e9es.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-1382\" src=\"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/07\/oreilles-bouch\u00e9es.jpg\" alt=\"Les conseils inutiles\" width=\"290\" height=\"217\" \/><\/a>Nous avons tous souffert de conseils inutiles.<\/h2>\n<h2>Ils partent tous d\u2019une bonne intention, nous aider, mais souvent ils sont pires que le mal.<\/h2>\n<p>Pourquoi\u00a0?<\/p>\n<p>Parce qu\u2019en plus de ne pas nous aider, ils nous culpabilisent\u00a0!<\/p>\n<p>\u00ab\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.formationsavoie.fr\/bien-etre-et-sante\/no-stress\/\">D\u00e9stresse\u00a0<\/a>\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0ne t\u2019angoisse pas\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0arr\u00eate de t\u2019\u00e9nerver\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0tu devrais l\u00e2cher prise\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0il faut te calmer\u00a0\u00bb, etc&#8230; La liste est longue de toutes ces petites phrases gratuites (heureusement\u00a0!) mais totalement inutiles (dommage\u00a0!).<\/p>\n<p>Inutiles, car il manque la m\u00e9thode pour y parvenir\u00a0! Vous avez sans doute, comme moi remarqu\u00e9, que toutes les personnes prodiguant ce type de conseils s\u2019arr\u00eatent sur le chemin de l\u2019aide. Elles vous disent ce que vous devez faire, mais jamais COMMENT le faire !<\/p>\n<p>Arr\u00eater de m\u2019angoisser, moi, je veux bien, mais je fais comment\u00a0?<\/p>\n<p>En <a href=\"http:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/\">coaching<\/a> et en <a href=\"http:\/\/www.formationsavoie.fr\/relations-interpersonnelles\/formation-communication\/\">PNL<\/a> nous consid\u00e9rons \u00e0 juste titre ces conseils contre-productifs.<\/p>\n<p>Loin d\u2019aider l\u2019autre, ils lui montrent au contraire \u00e0 quel point il n\u2019est pas \u00e0 la hauteur de la situation.<\/p>\n<p>Alors, si vous vous reconnaissez dans le portrait de celui qui prodigue des conseils, ou de celui qui les re\u00e7oit, (et donc, les subit), respectez ces quelques recommandations :<\/p>\n<h3>Si vous \u00eates le donneur de conseils\u00a0:<\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li>Premi\u00e8rement, demandez \u00e0 votre interlocuteur son accord avant de lui prodiguer votre savoir.<\/li>\n<li>Deuxi\u00e8mement, accompagnez votre discours d\u2019une m\u00e9thode, d\u2019un exemple et surtout d\u2019une solution\u00a0! Par exemple, si vous ressentez votre interlocuteur stress\u00e9, proposez lui une fa\u00e7on de s\u2019en lib\u00e9rer, soit en lui posant des questions utiles (pour quelles raisons est-il dans cet \u00e9tat\u00a0?), ou donnez-lui une fa\u00e7on de s\u2019en sortir (respirer, relativiser, se reposer, se distraire&#8230;)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3>Si vous \u00eates celui qui subit le conseil\u00a0:<\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li>Posez-vous uniquement la question de la l\u00e9gitimit\u00e9 de votre interlocuteur \u00e0 le prodiguer\u00a0! Est-il un mod\u00e8le du genre\u00a0?<\/li>\n<li>Si la r\u00e9ponse est non, vous vous sentirez d\u00e9j\u00e0 moins incapable, et remettez-le gentiment \u00e0 sa place.<\/li>\n<li>\u00c0 l\u2019inverse, si c\u2019est oui, tant mieux, mod\u00e9lisez\u00a0! Observez ce qu\u2019il fait de diff\u00e9rent pour ne pas se trouver dans la m\u00eame situation, le m\u00eame \u00e9tat que vous, et faites la m\u00eame chose.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Il n\u2019y a qu\u2019\u00e0 l\u2019\u00e9cole que ce n\u2019est pas beau de copier\u00a0;- ) En <a href=\"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/la-magie-des-emotions\/\">PNL<\/a>, nous croyons au contraire aux vertus de l\u2019imitation, \u00e0 condition de choisir le bon mod\u00e8le\u00a0!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Nous avons tous souffert de conseils inutiles. Ils partent tous d\u2019une bonne intention, nous aider, mais souvent ils sont pires que le mal. Pourquoi\u00a0? Parce qu\u2019en plus de ne pas nous aider, ils nous culpabilisent\u00a0! \u00ab\u00a0D\u00e9stresse\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0ne t\u2019angoisse pas\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0arr\u00eate de t\u2019\u00e9nerver\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0tu devrais l\u00e2cher prise\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0il faut te calmer\u00a0\u00bb, etc&#8230; La liste est longue [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_mi_skip_tracking":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[207,71,44,224],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v18.1 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Les conseillers ne sont pas les payeurs dit le proverbe et ce n&#039;est que trop vrai ! apprenez \u00e0 g\u00e9rer les conseils inutiles que nous subissons.\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/les-conseils-inutiles\/\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:title\" content=\"Les conseils inutiles - Coaching et formation en Savoie\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:description\" content=\"Les conseillers ne sont pas les payeurs dit le proverbe et ce n&#039;est que trop vrai ! 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