{"id":1337,"date":"2017-06-02T18:15:03","date_gmt":"2017-06-02T16:15:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/?p=1337"},"modified":"2018-09-03T15:27:22","modified_gmt":"2018-09-03T13:27:22","slug":"apprendre-a-se-taire","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/apprendre-a-se-taire\/","title":{"rendered":"Apprendre \u00e0 se taire"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2><a href=\"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/Do_not_disturb.svg_.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-1338\" src=\"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/Do_not_disturb.svg_-441x1024.png\" alt=\"Apprendre \u00e0 se taire\" width=\"250\" height=\"580\" srcset=\"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/Do_not_disturb.svg_-441x1024.png 441w, https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/Do_not_disturb.svg_-129x300.png 129w, https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/Do_not_disturb.svg_-768x1782.png 768w, https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/Do_not_disturb.svg_.png 1000w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 250px) 100vw, 250px\" \/><\/a>Aujourd\u2019hui, nombre de formations portent sur \u00ab\u00a0l\u2019affirmation de soi\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0apprendre \u00e0 dire non\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0prendre la parole en public\u00a0\u00bb, mais aucune pour apprendre \u00e0 se taire.<\/h2>\n<p>Or, j\u2019ai le sentiment qu\u2019elle serait tout aussi utile, si ce n\u2019est plus\u00a0!<\/p>\n<p>Comme moi, vous avez peut-\u00eatre un jour\u00a0:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>donn\u00e9 notre avis alors que personne ne vous le demandait,<\/li>\n<li>prodigu\u00e9 un conseil alors que l\u2019Autre n\u2019attendait que de l\u2019\u00e9coute,<\/li>\n<li>d\u00e9fendu une victime qui s\u2019ignorait, et qui vous en a voulu d\u2019\u00eatre intervenu<\/li>\n<li>pris la parole au nom d\u2019un collectif qui vous a laiss\u00e9 faire sans vous soutenir pour autant<\/li>\n<li>ou encore dit une v\u00e9rit\u00e9 \u00e0 quelqu\u2019un qui n\u2019\u00e9tait pas pr\u00eat \u00e0 l\u2019entendre.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Vous l\u2019avez sans doute tr\u00e8s vite regrett\u00e9. Vous vous \u00eates rendu compte que vous n\u2019auriez pas d\u00fb, ou alors vous avez \u00e9t\u00e9 d\u00e9\u00e7u par l\u2019ingratitude de l\u2019autre, voire sa virulence lorsqu\u2019il vous a remis \u00e0 votre place.<\/p>\n<p>Et c\u2019est de bonne guerre\u00a0!<\/p>\n<p>Autrefois, nous apprenions aux enfants \u00e0 tourner la langue 7 fois dans leur bouche avant de parler. Aujourd\u2019hui, ils l\u2019ont et nous l\u2019avons tous plut\u00f4t bien pendue\u00a0!<\/p>\n<p>Nous sommes envahis de paroles. Les n\u00f4tres et celles des autres.<\/p>\n<p>Qui nous disent \u00ab\u00a0fais ceci\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0fais cela\u00a0\u00bb,\u00a0\u00bb tu devrais\u00a0\u00bb ou \u00ab\u00a0tu ne devrais pas\u00a0\u00bb&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Peut-\u00eatre suffirait-il de se poser quelques questions avant de s\u2019arroger le droit de \u00ab\u00a0l\u2019ouvrir\u00a0\u00bb\u00a0: je peux me permettre cette familiarit\u00e9, c\u2019est \u00e0 moi que je l\u2019adresse\u00a0!<\/p>\n<h3>Quelles questions se poser avant de prendre la parole\u00a0?<\/h3>\n<ol>\n<li>D\u00e9j\u00e0, commen\u00e7ons par utiliser <a href=\"https:\/\/drive.google.com\/file\/d\/0B6iGjHYWgkkncFVxaFJpNUNncjQ\/view\">le test des 3 passoires de Socrate<\/a>.<\/li>\n<li>Ensuite, et si je ne suis pas dans ce contexte, se demander \u00e0 qui s\u2019adresse r\u00e9ellement cette parole\u00a0? Est-elle vraiment destin\u00e9e \u00e0 l\u2019autre ou pour me faire plaisir\u00a0? pour le plaisir de m\u2019entendre\u00a0?<\/li>\n<li>Obtenir ensuite de l\u2019autre son accord pour vous \u00e9couter. Des formules comme \u00ab\u00a0tu m\u2019autorises \u00e0 te donner mon sentiment\u00a0? \u00c0 te donner un avis ou un conseil\u00a0?\u00a0\u00bb, fonctionneront toujours mieux que \u00ab\u00a0si j\u2019\u00e9tais toi, je&#8230;\u00a0\u00bb. \u00c7a tombe mal, tu n\u2019es pas moi et je ne suis pas toi.<\/li>\n<li>V\u00e9rifier que l\u2019Autre est pr\u00eat \u00e0 entendre ce que j\u2019ai \u00e0 lui dire, et dans le cas contraire, se taire ou le pr\u00e9parer\u00a0!<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Ce flot incessant et d\u00e9sordonn\u00e9, explique que d\u2019autres aient besoin de <a href=\"http:\/\/www.formationsavoie.fr\/relations-interpersonnelles\/savoir-dire-non\/\">s\u2019affirmer<\/a>, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.formationsavoie.fr\/relations-interpersonnelles\/formation-communication\/\">d\u2019apprendre \u00e0 s\u2019exprimer<\/a>, \u00e0 se d\u00e9fendre tout simplement.<\/p>\n<p>Alors, chut&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Aujourd\u2019hui, nombre de formations portent sur \u00ab\u00a0l\u2019affirmation de soi\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0apprendre \u00e0 dire non\u00a0\u00bb, \u00ab\u00a0prendre la parole en public\u00a0\u00bb, mais aucune pour apprendre \u00e0 se taire. Or, j\u2019ai le sentiment qu\u2019elle serait tout aussi utile, si ce n\u2019est plus\u00a0! Comme moi, vous avez peut-\u00eatre un jour\u00a0: donn\u00e9 notre avis alors que personne ne vous le demandait, [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_mi_skip_tracking":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v18.1 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Dans notre soci\u00e9t\u00e9 de communication incessante, apprendre \u00e0 se taire est sans doute une des plus belles vertus : pourquoi et comment faire ?\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/apprendre-a-se-taire\/\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:title\" content=\"Apprendre \u00e0 se taire - Coaching et formation en Savoie\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:description\" content=\"Dans notre soci\u00e9t\u00e9 de communication incessante, apprendre \u00e0 se taire est sans doute une des plus belles vertus : pourquoi et comment faire ?\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:image\" content=\"http:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/Do_not_disturb.svg_-441x1024.png\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"\u00c9crit par\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"Fr\u00e9d\u00e9rique\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Dur\u00e9e de lecture estim\u00e9e\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"2 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/\",\"name\":\"Coaching et formation en Savoie\",\"description\":\"Fr\u00e9d\u00e9rique Lemoine, formatrice sp\u00e9cialis\u00e9e en soft skills, coach certifi\u00e9e, conf\u00e9renci\u00e8re et praticien PNL\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":\"required name=search_term_string\"}],\"inLanguage\":\"fr-FR\"},{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/apprendre-a-se-taire\/#primaryimage\",\"inLanguage\":\"fr-FR\",\"url\":\"http:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/Do_not_disturb.svg_-441x1024.png\",\"contentUrl\":\"http:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/06\/Do_not_disturb.svg_-441x1024.png\"},{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/apprendre-a-se-taire\/#webpage\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/apprendre-a-se-taire\/\",\"name\":\"Apprendre \u00e0 se taire - 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