{"id":1086,"date":"2017-01-22T18:05:59","date_gmt":"2017-01-22T17:05:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/?p=1086"},"modified":"2017-02-16T17:09:10","modified_gmt":"2017-02-16T16:09:10","slug":"pas-de-chance-jai-jamais-la-feve","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/pas-de-chance-jai-jamais-la-feve\/","title":{"rendered":"Quelle malchance, j&rsquo;ai jamais la f\u00e8ve !"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2><a href=\"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/01\/galette.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-1087 size-medium\" src=\"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/01\/galette-300x300.jpg\" alt=\"Chance ou malchance ?\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/01\/galette-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/01\/galette-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/01\/galette.jpg 612w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a>Quand la malchance s&rsquo;invite \u00e0 table&#8230;<\/h2>\n<p>\u00abC\u2019est jamais moi qui ai la f\u00e8ve\u00a0! j\u2019en ai marre, j\u2019ai jamais de chance\u00a0!!\u00bb<\/p>\n<p>Et un de ses fr\u00e8res de r\u00e9pondre \u00e0 sa s\u0153ur : \u00ab\u00a0Moi, je l&rsquo;ai quasiment tout le temps\u00a0\u00bb<\/p>\n<p>C\u2019est idiot, mais ces quelques mots de ma fille, m\u2019ont boulevers\u00e9e.<\/p>\n<p>Je suis rest\u00e9e interdite, je n\u2019ai rien trouv\u00e9 d\u2019utile et d\u2019aidant \u00e0 lui r\u00e9pondre.<\/p>\n<p>Moi, la coach ? Quelle honte\u00a0! Je suis mortifi\u00e9e\u00a0!<\/p>\n<p>Je l\u2019ai regard\u00e9e, d\u00e9pit\u00e9e, et je lui ai dit pitoyablement \u00ab\u00a0oh, ma pauvre louloute, c\u2019est trop triste\u00a0!\u00a0\u00bb<\/p>\n<p>Et naturellement, j\u2019ai trich\u00e9 le soir-m\u00eame, avec sa muette complicit\u00e9, \u00a0pour qu\u2019elle ait enfin la f\u00e8ve&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Je m\u2019en suis aussit\u00f4t voulue.<\/p>\n<p>Tout le monde s\u2019en est dout\u00e9 mais personne n\u2019a rien dit. Path\u00e9tique et admirable ) !<\/p>\n<p>Oui, admirable.<\/p>\n<p>Car au fond, si tout le monde s\u2019est tu, et a particip\u00e9 \u00e0 cette pieuse supercherie, c\u2019est pour une seule et m\u00eame raison\u00a0: l\u2019envie, le besoin de r\u00e9tablir une certaine justice face \u00e0 la chance, \u00e0 r\u00e9\u00e9quilibrer le jeu.<\/p>\n<p>Une forme de solidarit\u00e9 tacite face \u00e0 cette variable, que nous avons tous rencontr\u00e9, loup\u00e9, ou constat\u00e9 chez autrui.<\/p>\n<h3>Car nous sommes tous conscients, ou fantasmons, le poids de la <a href=\"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/la-chance-est-une-pimbeche\/\">chance.<\/a><\/h3>\n<p>Notamment celui de la malchance, que nous grossissons souvent, quand cela nous arrange \u00ab\u00a0La malchance est une circonstance att\u00e9nuante que la vie donne aux rat\u00e9s\u00a0\u00bb.<\/p>\n<p>J\u2019ignore de qui est cette citation mais je la trouve souvent juste,(en d\u00e9pit du mot \u00ab\u00a0rat\u00e9s\u00a0\u00bb que je n\u2019appr\u00e9cie gu\u00e8re\u00a0!)<\/p>\n<p>C\u2019est pourquoi \u00a0je me suis rapidement reproch\u00e9e mon manque d\u2019\u00e0 propos.<\/p>\n<p>Aussi, un peu tardivement, \u00a0voil\u00e0 ce que j\u2019aurais d\u00fb r\u00e9pondre \u00e0 ma fille\u00a0:<\/p>\n<p>\u00ab\u00a0Tu en es s\u00fbre\u00a0? Tu te souviens d\u2019une ann\u00e9e sur l\u2019autre si tu as eu la f\u00e8ve\u00a0? (parce que moi non\u00a0!!)\u00a0 Et m\u00eame si c\u2019est le cas, ce n\u2019est pas toi qui n\u2019as pas de chance. Nous sommes 5, un seul l\u2019a eu, il y en a qui a plus de chance que les 4 autres, c\u2019est tout. En revanche, si tu te racontes que tu n\u2019as pas de chance, tu risques de ne plus en avoir, de la d\u00e9courager. Et puis, tant que \u00e7a concerne la f\u00e8ve, c&rsquo;est pas bien m\u00e9chant ! \u00bb<\/p>\n<p>Oui, voil\u00e0 ce que j\u2019aurai du lui r\u00e9pondre plut\u00f4t que de prendre pour argent comptant sa plainte, compatir imm\u00e9diatement, <strong>au risque de renforcer ce qui rel\u00e8ve davantage de la croyance que de la r\u00e9alit\u00e9<\/strong>, <strong>de g\u00e9n\u00e9raliser une situation qui se limite \u00e0 l\u2019\u00c9piphanie !<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Vous jouez de chance ou de malchance dans votre vie\u00a0?<\/p>\n<p>Sans nier pas un pourcentage possible, il me semble que notre croyance intime de rencontrer souvent plut\u00f4t l\u2019une (la chance) ou l\u2019autre (la malchance) renforce leur influence, leur pr\u00e9sence dans notre vie.<\/p>\n<p>Alors, gare \u00e0 nos croyances \u00e0 leur sujet !<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Quand la malchance s&rsquo;invite \u00e0 table&#8230; \u00abC\u2019est jamais moi qui ai la f\u00e8ve\u00a0! j\u2019en ai marre, j\u2019ai jamais de chance\u00a0!!\u00bb Et un de ses fr\u00e8res de r\u00e9pondre \u00e0 sa s\u0153ur : \u00ab\u00a0Moi, je l&rsquo;ai quasiment tout le temps\u00a0\u00bb C\u2019est idiot, mais ces quelques mots de ma fille, m\u2019ont boulevers\u00e9e. Je suis rest\u00e9e interdite, je n\u2019ai [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_mi_skip_tracking":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[225],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v18.1 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Chance ou malchance, mythe ou r\u00e9alit\u00e9 ?\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/coachingsavoie.com\/blog\/pas-de-chance-jai-jamais-la-feve\/\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:title\" content=\"Pas de chance j&#039;ai jamais la f\u00e8ve !\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:description\" content=\"Chance ou malchance, mythe ou r\u00e9alit\u00e9 ?\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:image\" 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